My friend K.Dot is an awesome hot-hot lady. She is classy. She is smart. She is pretty. She is kind. With all of these great traits, it should be no surprise that it has been hard for her to find love in Atlanta. I feel like people all over America are aware of how Stephen King dating is in this city. However, she is 36, single, and ready to mingle.
If you think that dating is rough on a woman in the world, try dating in the church. That is a whole 'nother level of stress! People want to know what has happened, or what is "wrong" when you haven't gotten hitched by a certain time. While other single women at our church may be biting their nails, K. Dot is taking a more relaxed approach.
"Will you be upset if you never get married?" I asked.
She thought about it before saying, "I will be disappointed, but I won't be devastated."
Something about this remark seemed so profound to me. Disappointed but not devastated. Interesting.
Maybe this wording was so striking because in my life, when confronted with anything, I go right past disappointed and crash into devastating. This is a big deal, because when something is devastating, getting over it feels insurmountable. When you are disappointed, you sit in that ache for a minute, then you move on. There are so many things I need to move on from.
I don't make new year resolutions anymore. They'd never come to pass, and I'd end up pissed at myself. But if I had to have one this year, it would be to be disappointed. There is freedom in it and room for correction. Hopefully this new way of thinking will bring joy and success into my life. If not, I will be devastated.
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