Oh, how cold weather and loneliness seem to be an Alzheimer 's-causing combination for the men in my life. I say this because during late summer and early fall, when the living was easy and the fish were jumpin', a few guys that I was talking to let it be known what their conclusional (I love making up words) opinions of me were. I have to say, the reviews were not good. They made it clear that they were looking for a more "adventurous" female, and I just was not cutting the mustard. And to be brutally honest, they also felt I wasn't "sexually immature" and felt like I was in middle school or something. I gave them the ick, so they had to roll. I mean, I still have these texts in my phone! Yet now, that the weather has cooled and the warm-weather situations have become couples, the options have gotten sparse, and they find themselves reaching out to me. Little ol' unsuitable me! Guys like this are referred to in the streets as Block Circlers, and they really are pieces of work.
"They are reaching out to you because they figure that you may have forgotten what went down earlier. It has been a few months," P explained.
The explanation makes sense, but it is shocking. I mean, if I told a woman in my life that I thought that she sucked and was too much like a kid to get on my level, I wouldn't expect to hear from her ever again. I wouldn't want to talk to her again either. However, this is not the mindset of the Block Circler. They are motivated by testosterone and loneliness, and they are not be trifled with. They are convincing! They come at you with such renewed enthusiasm that it will have you wondering if you imagined the text argument that left you devastated and in tears. Let me just tell you: you didn't.
I say all that to say that I would love to have some love under the tree this holiday, just like every other single person in this romantic wasteland of a city. Call me high maintenance, but I would also like that person under the tree to actually like me. I shudder to think of all the people involved in a block circle blunder with someone who won't make it to Valentine's Day. They are setting themselves up to learn the same lesson twice. Yikes! They will also inevitably end up alone again, even if only for a short time, before people start taking partner applications in March.
My short foray into dating has shown me that romance procurement is a cyclical situation. This is why people dump their nobody after Dr. King Day so that they aren't on the hook for V-Day plans. This is also why they reach back out to that same person right before it's time to put up the tree. I have to say that it doesn't really feel good being the person being circle-blocked upon. However, it's cold out and I have nothing else to do. I might as well reply to that good morning text. 😒
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