Has anyone else noticed that the older you get, the quicker the big issues come up in those first getting to know you conversations? I don't think I was on the phone with this guy Ted for ten minutes before he demanded to know my stance on abortion.
"I wouldn't respect any woman who did that!" he declared.
"Well...I believe women should be able to get the healthcare they need," I said, wondering how we ended up on this topic of all topics.
"Really?! I know girls back home who have had four or five abortions. What do you think about that?" he demanded.
"I think men are pretty pro-life until they get the bill," I said, dryly. Oops! There I go again accidentally telling a guy my true feelings. You would think I'd know better by now.
I guess past a certain age you don't have time to waste on pleasantries. You have to find out how looney someone is quickly. Many of us would probably be better off if we would have done this from the start. The Gen Z girlies aren't playing around about getting to the heart of matters expediently. My Gen Z buddy Tanya told me all about it.
"My friend Jess went home with a guy she met on Tinder," Tanya began, "and they were about to hook up, but she asked him who he voted for President and he didn't want to answer."
Not a good sign, I thought.
"She didn't like his answer so she got up and left!" said Tanya.
Sigh. If so many of us elders would have got up and left, but we didn't, now we are having cringy conversations about abortion with men we met online.
Here's the thing they tell you but that you don't believe until your back is against the wall: time is of the essence. This is especially true in today's piss poor dating landscape. The key is to find a way to take your time without wasting it, but I'm almost at a point where I don't know if that's possible. Everything in the dating world just feels so rushed and somehow overwhelming and underwhelming at the same time. I kind of want to clock out of the whole thing, but no can do when you have to hurry up.
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