ALICIA KEYS "Girlfriend"

This video is so funny to me! I was seriously crackin' up watching it this morning. Number 1, I had never seen it before today and 2, Why is Alicia Keys dancing?! LOL, her image has certainly changed. She went from being jealous of your girlfriend to being the chick you don't trust around your boyfriend. Sigh, I hate it when sistahs disrespect each other.

Divorce, Dismorsh

I wrote earlier about how I was sad that Alicia Keys is dating a married man, producer Swiss Beats, and has made no apologies about it. Although there have been more and more postings about K.Swiss fiasco ( I dubbed this name first!), my love of her music is forcing me to try to overlook her, as Big Tiger would say, indiscretions. But when I heard about Fantasia Barrino, I just had to kick the can!
Yes, Fantasia ya'll. Our favorite homegirl American Idol winner that has gone on to put out two albums and a Lifetime movie. Fantasia- Celie of Oprah's The Color Purple stage play. Young Dro's old beau. The woman who's teen life was shaped by being done wrong by a man. That Fantasia. Well, she is now dating a married man too that she...wait for it...MET AT THE SPRINT STORE!
Ugghhh...You know, people go on and on about Gay marriage and atheism but I feel like pulling what Fantasia is pulling is what is really eating away at the fabric of this country. What the Hell happened to the girlfriend's code of conduct?
And we all know what that is whether we choose to live buy it or not ladies. Don't date your bff's ex, return things in better condition than you borrowed them and oh yeah...DON'T ENTERTAIN A MARRIED MAN! Women just don't care anymore. Blame it on a lack of available straight men. Blame it on the income gap between men and women. Hell, blame it on the alcohol. But celebs and everyday broads alike are sporting the married man like the latest Coach bag and in my o-pin-ion, it just isn't cool.
Dating a married man is not new. But I yearn for a time when the other woman stayed in the shadows and just enjoyed expensive gifts and vacations. Then if there was a divorce (very rarely) she would run off into the sunset with her beau...until he found someone else to replace her with.
Why am I irritated if I am not in the situation? Newsflash: all single women are in the situation. Each of us has to deal with what the last girl let the man get away with. Sad but true fact.
On the other hand, I guess it just boils down to that pesky need to be happy, even if it ultimately resorts in unhappiness on someone's end.

Nuptial Nonscense

I thought I was through with Kim from the Real Housewives of Atlanta, walking around with a wine glass in one hand and a cig in the other, bragging in front of her children about how she is dating a "legally married" man. I have even been beyond through with Lil' Kim, who, 'til this day, walks around talking about how much she was in love with her abuser, the infamous Biggy, and how he was going to commit to her...as if he was not married with children. I don't care if he did only know Faith for a second before he proposed. A ring outweighs a fling.
So being done 2x over, I did not think it was possible to be any...done-r, that is, until I heard about this drama with Alicia Keys, her not-so-divorced beau Swiss Beatz, and his not-so-ex wife Mashonda. Apparently, Keys has been talkin' to Swiss since before the divorce came into play and Mashonda, wanting to save her marriage ( and most likely a couple of Gs) tried to reach out to Keys and nip it in the bud before her marriage completely went south. Keys did not respond, but recently wrote a Tweet about love, which, coincidently, got Mashonda's attention.
According to my fellow bloggers, the Keys Tweet wrote: "Having a heated debate in the studio. [In] love is it better to [go] for the choice that is 'SMART,' or the choice that has 'SPARK?' "
This no doubt got 'Shonda's (I'm sure her close friends called her that in middle school, Shonda) coals 'a burnin'. She decided to respond to Keys in an open letter in which she stated, "My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck?"
Of course, Shonda had a lot more to say, but I have to agree with this particular passage. I, as a Keys fan who has no say in her personal affairs, am saddened by all of this. As asked best by Shonda, how is this the same Keys that writes toe-tappers about female empowerment? She is not like the two Kims mentioned earlier. She has class. This is just baffling.
Now I bet some of you all just want to charge this to the love game, but I must plead that you not even try it. I am not from the school of "The heart wants what the heart wants" because, for lack of a better word, it is bullshit. There is a rhyme and a reason and an order to the world, especially when it comes to sensitive topics such as adultery and dating married men. With this in mind, I am more from the school of "What someone will do with you, they will do to you." I am in no way wishing a broken heart on Keys, but I can tell from 'Diary' alone that she is well aware of this.
It is yet to be seen what will happen with Swiss and Keys, or SwissKeys if you will, because no one is talking from their camps. Probably because it is what it looks like, and there is nothing to say. In that case, keep your lips sealed. All I have to say is that I know love and its allure is strong, but building a respectable name and reputation for yourself takes years and can be diminished in a split second. Because of this and my moral beliefs, there is no way I can get caught up in someone else's nuptial nonsense.