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Showing posts with label engagement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label engagement. Show all posts

Sunday, April 30, 2023

Engagement and the Retired Thug

My friend Angela recently had a Netflix and Chill day date that she was very excited about. Whenever she tells me about a new beau I hold my breath, because she is a notoriously bad partner picker, primarily because she is a heavy proponent of thug love. And I have been here through all of them: the trapper, the rapper, the swinger with OCD. Before she even got started with the story, I was already preparing myself for the BS. 

Apparently, this guy is not a thug...he's a retired thug. He's gone legit everybody, making gourmet food for a laundry list of clients. She said that he opened her car door for her and was a real gentleman. He actually sounded like he may not suck until she told me that he is engaged. 

I swear, anything flies in Atlanta. How do you date someone who is engaged?! I know that people are grown and that they are going to do what they are going to do, but Angela's baby daddy was a cheater. She has been cheated on before. I brought this to her attention and her response was, "Yeah, I felt some type of way about it. But I'm bored."

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She assures me that the retired thug is nothing serious. She says he has proven that he can't be taken seriously because he is engaged and dating. That's the understatement of the season! As I continued to listen to the deets about the day date, I thought about his fiancĂ© who was possibly snuggled with him at that very moment. I also thought about the boulder of karma that could be rolling full speed at my friend's face. Listen, when I was younger and did something stupid that was karma-able, I would dedicate some months to the universe for forgiveness. These days, I try to stay on the straight and narrow. I don't have months to give away! And neither does Angela. I see this going nowhere fast, hopefully. It's hard to watch friends you loved do dumb ish. 


Tuesday, July 6, 2010

A Jazzy Affair

Last weekend I went to my friend Jazzy's engagement party here in the A. It was nice, food and drink and conversation. I was happy that I went, seeing that I usually try not to engage in anything regarding engagements, partially because I am not sure how I feel about marriage and, of course, because I am a hater.
But my friend Jazzy is adorable. She is one of those people that is so nice and so sweet that you couldn't find a reason not to like her if you tried! I am not surprised that she is one of the first of my college friends to be tying the knot.
Her fiance is really cool, which was a surprise to me, seeing that it has been my experience that nice girls attract complete dill holes. But they are just so cute together. They compliment each other. Watching them talk on the living room couch I wondered, can a marriage work? Can there really be pure, sweet, true love in the world? Can nice girls find nice guys and have nice kids and a nice life?
Seeing all the huge gift bags that people brought Jazzy and the sense of love in the air, I tried not to drink the Kool-Aid on the ever-after fairytale, at least not for myself. For the really awesome girls in the world, like Jazzy, I hope that it is real and wonderful and fantastic...and sweet. Until this is proven to me personally, I am keeping my Kool-Aid in the pack in the cabinet.