Last night I talked to one of my friends for almost an hour and a half who was seriously suffering from the lonelies, or as I like to call it, 29itis. Not only was she sad that she didn't feel like she had a home, but she was also sad because she felt like she didn't have anyone to really hang with. Honestly, if you are almost 30 and you have never felt like this, after most of your friends have married and had kids and gotten into relationships and forgotten about you while your family feels you're too old to be showered with love, then I don't get it. Any way, I gave her Fran's wise words: you have to seek out community. You can not sit around and mope and wait on happiness to find you or for magic friends to fill your life, you have to actively work towards creating the community around you that you want. She doesn't want to do it, but who does? We are no longer in college, where you can just walk to the cafeteria and make new friends. This ish is going to take work! Thumbs down to the TV shows and children's books that told us that our lives would always be ready-made with the support we need and a deep breath and a thumbs up to those who are tired of complaining and are shaping their lives to what they want them to be.
