There is an article in Marie Claire Magazine this month called "What's Your Number?" The article asked different women how many people they have had sex with, and gave a brief description of their jobs and how they felt about sex.
Here were the numbers: 0, 6, 20, 30, and 100. And with the exception of the virgin, they talked about how they like sex, didn't mind doing chicks, and didn't feel like they had to apologize. The attitude: boys do it, why should I feel bad? Ah...dick envy.
I really liked the story, but all I could think about is that how if any of these women were Black with the exception of the virgin, they would have been labeled hoes! Why is there a difference in Black and White cultural definitions of being promiscuous? Should promiscuity be stigmatized? Should a woman expect sexual equality along with her wage and employment equality, or is that just a pipe wish we have so that we don't feel so bad about being slut puppies?
I am 26 and many of my girlfriends are sliding into the sexual double digets like a fresh pair of Louboutins. And they will openly talk about it with me, but with the guys they are with, they keep that info under their hats for the most part. And after talking to some of my guy friends about it, they have good reason to. Apparently, the easy girl is fun to have sex with, but not someone you take seriously (like our granny's told us).
Last night P said something interesting. "If you have been with tons of dudes, what are you going to do with me that you haven't done with everybody?"
Dudes want to be exclusive? LOL, who knew?
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